Hypersexuality is a Training Mechanism

Hypersexuality doesn't liberate us — it trains us to optimize ourselves for attention. It's a Training Mechanism. We start measuring ourselves by what gets the most clicks, the most likes, the biggest reaction. A little more skin. A little more shock. A little more performance. We mistake visibility for freedom. But that's not freedom. It's optimization.

The only way to escape this seductive vortex is to return to the embodiment of eros and collective consciousness.

In The Agony of Eros, Byung-Chul Han argues that we've become "achievement subjects." We don't just work harder — we turn ourselves into projects.

Han argues that we no longer live primarily in a society of prohibition ("you must not") but in a society of achievement ("you can"). We believe we are freer than ever because we face fewer external restrictions. Yet this apparent freedom becomes a subtler form of control: we constantly pressure ourselves to optimize, perform, achieve, and improve.

Instead of being oppressed by authority, we become our own oppressors.

If I apply this to sexual objectification, our bodies, image, and sexuality become something to improve. Our personalities become brands. Even our relationships become performance. I think this is exactly what self-objectification is. When I start seeing myself from the outside — as an image to be evaluated — I stop inhabiting my own body.

Pornified culture intensifies this. It teaches us to view bodies through the logic of consumption. Women learn to anticipate the gaze before they even enter the room. Men are taught to consume images rather than encounter another person. Both end up trapped in the same system of performance.

Han says eros begins where mastery ends. Love requires us to accept that another person cannot be controlled, optimized, or possessed. But pornography removes precisely that uncertainty. It offers the fantasy of endless availability without the risk of rejection, vulnerability, or reciprocity.

That's why I don't think pornography simply changes what we watch. It changes how we relate. It trains us to prefer control over encounter, performance over presence, and consumption over communion.

"Pornified culture asks us to become better products. Eros asks us to leave the marketplace."

Pornified culture asks us to become better products. Eros asks us to leave the marketplace.